Do you have a friend that you can tell everything to? I mean everything, without the fear of being judged? If you do, then you know what it means to be completely known and truly loved.

Most of the time we only show people the parts of us that we want them to see–the parts that are acceptable. We either hide or fake the rest.

Of course, there are different levels of friendships, and the deeper the friendship, the more you will reveal. And the more you reveal, the deeper the friendship becomes. But what needs to be in the relationship for you to reveal the deeper issues? Trust.

Trust is everything in a relationship. It is the bridge that the relationship stands on.

One of the main reasons it is critical that you have trusting relationships in your life is because they are essential for your mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and relational health.

It takes an enormous amount of internal energy to maintain the dissonance between who you truly are, and who you present yourself to be.

Remember, our theme is Strength and Strategy. Being fake, or not having friends you can get real with, will not only take up a ton of internal energy, but it will also cause you to hold in all the bad stuff until it begins spilling over. It will negatively affect you and all those around you.

Now some people are true hypocrites who set out to deceive people about who they truly are. But most of us aren’t that way – we just don’t want to show people our dark parts–the things about ourselves that we don’t like very much, or genuinely hate.

Hiding these things from others is understandable because we do not want to be judged, thought less of by those we respect, and possibly rejected. The downside however is that your relationships will only go so deep. It’s the same with your relationship with God.

God wants you to tell Him everything.

This is why God called David, the Psalmist, a man after His own heart. It wasn’t because David was perfect. Just read his life story and you will see that wasn’t the case at all! It wasn’t because David was perfect that God loved him so much, but rather because David was honest. He held nothing back.

Just read the Psalms and you will see that He was completely transparent with God – and for that matter, with us, too! The Psalms/songs he wrote were like his personal journal, yet they were set to music and published for all of Israel to sing in church! These are the same songs we sing in church!

You might ask why in the world he would do that. Well, when we look at the kind of friendship He had with the Lord, we understand. He cared more about knowing God fully, and being fully known by God, than anything else in the world.

My favorite verse in the Bible is one that he penned:

“Trust in Him at all times, you people; Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us. Selah” Psalm 62:8

In this one verse we have all the components to an authentic relationship with God – trust, gut-honesty, God’s embrace.

God is your safe place.

Now, I am not ready for my personal journal to be read to the entire church, and I doubt you are either, but we must start somewhere, and the best place is with God Himself.

Let me ask you a question: If you were to decide to get brutally honest with God and tell him your most heinous thoughts, deepest desires, and darkest sins, do you think that is when He will find out about them?

Or, do you think that if you did, He would reject you?

The truth is just the opposite. Once you tell Him everything, and I mean everything, first you will experience tremendous relief in your own soul. And, secondly, you will feel His love and acceptance. You will not experience His disappointment but rather His encouragement. God loves you through and through, just as you are. He won’t leave you as you are, but He can only help you to the degree that you are honest with Him.

God loves truth because God is truth, and there is grace for truth.

“God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.” James 4:6b

Be honest with God. Don’t be afraid. Pour out your heart to Him. All of it. If you do, you will begin to experience the freedom that comes from an authentic friendship with God.


  1. Are you afraid to be completely honest with God? What do you think will happen if you are?
  2. Are you afraid to be completely honest with yourself? What do you think will happen if you are?
  3. What kind of a relationship do you want to have with God – a real one or a fake one?