“When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.” Psalm 27:10
To “forsake” means: to abandon or desert something or someone of value.
The writer of this Psalm/song, king David, was not actually forsaken by his father and mother. Some of his closest friends and companions had forsaken him, but to stress his point, he was choosing the most extreme example of being forsaken by those most responsible to take care of him. He was saying that even if your own father and mother forsake you, the Lord will not.
If you have lived long enough, this has happened to you, too. In fact, I know that some of you have even had your father, or mother, or sisters and brothers, or your closest friends forsake you. And much of it has happened over the past few years in response to your politics, social justice issues, and/or different convictions about COVID-19.
Pastors are experiencing it from church members. Parents and grandparents are experiencing it from children and grandchildren. Friends and roommates are experiencing it. Neighbors are experiencing it. And there has been more “unfriending” on Facebook than since its inception.
Being forsaken is one of the most painful, gut-wrenching experiences in life. It leaves you in a state of shock, feeling incredibly devalued, disappointed, angry, and disillusioned. So, what do you do when this happens?
Trust in the Lord’s faithfulness.
When people let you down, it makes you realize all over again that God is the only Person you can ultimately depend on.
But here is the good news. Being forsaken can actually turn out for your good. How? Because being forsaken by others will deepen your dependency on God – if you will seek Him. What the enemy meant for evil can turn into the best thing possible.
That is why the Psalmist can end this song with an anthem of hope:
“I would have lost heart if I had not believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait on the Lord and be of good courage, and He will strengthen your heart. Wait, I say, on the Lord.” Psalm 27:13, 14
Did you notice that Scripture said that God will strengthen your heart? When you experience abandonment, it is your heart that takes the hit. It sinks. It feels like it is going to stop beating. You need your heart to be resuscitated. And what I have found is that the Lord is the One who can do that.
One of the names of the Lord is Jehovah Rapha, the Lord your Healer. The Hebrew means, “Quick Stitcher”. It will still take time for your heart to heal, but I have found that when I seek the Lord in my pain the healing happens so much faster.
When your heart has been torn, God can stitch it up if you will seek Him. That is why the Psalmist also writes in this song,
“When you said, ‘Seek My face’, my heart said to You, ‘Your face, Lord, I will seek.’” Psalm 27:8
Are you willing to seek the Lord in your pain? The apostle Paul did. Joseph did. David did. Even Jesus did.
This is the only way back to a healthy heart.
Pour out your heart to Him. Then trust in His faithfulness. He will strengthen your heart.
Q. Have you turned your wounded heart over to the Lord yet?
Q. If not, why not?